Wedding Gift Etiquette

My mother was telling me the other day that you are supposed to give a check that covers your dinner and a gift for a wedding. I’ve been told that to be safe we should give $100 if you don’t know how much the dinner is to cost. I’ve never heard this before. At our wedding, we didn’t get anything like this. The wedding is actually for one of our groomsmen for our wedding and he gave my husband a flask for a wedding gift. His wedding is today. We’ve bought them about $100 in gifts…do we also need to bring a check?

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I got married last month in Las Vegas. My sister is giving my husband and I a party. This is not a shower, and not an occasion where I am expecting gifts. However, I know that some people may bring gifts. In this instance, do I open the gifts at the party, or should I wait until later? I have heard different perspectives. Some say that you open gifts at a shower, but not at a party. Other people are of the opinion that it is tacky not to go ahead and open the gifts that people bring. I don’t want to offend anyone! What is the proper protocol here! Thanks!

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Getting married soon and wondering what the etiquette is for gifts for the officiant? We are getting married in a church and have already paid a fee to have the marriage. Just want to see if an additioal gift is required. Thanks.

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The invitation clearly states no gifts, but I feel ackword about not bringing one, should I bring one anyways or give one to my friends at a later date? what is appropriate?

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One of my co-workers who I am friendly with (we get together outside of work) was informed that her daughter just eloped in Vegas. She is very happy for them & her friends are happy for her.
She is planning a party at her home in 2 weeks to celebrate – just a BBQ type thing. She has said “I just want to celebrate with my friends & family and you get to meet my daughter & new son-in-law”. She also specifically said “no gifts please”.

A couple co-workers & I are thinking a little congratulatory card & small gift is appropriate – it is a celebration & something we would like to do for our friend’s daughter, especially since she didn’t have any showers or a wedding with guests that would have given gifts. Since the couple lives out of state, I was thinking a $25 gift card to Target would be nice (I’ve checked there is a Target in her town/state).

Is that too cheap of a gift or acceptable?
You are correct that we have not met her daughter before.
I and at least two other friends/co-workers were going to get $25 gift cards to the same store so we know she could group them together to possibly buy a larger item or she could get smaller stuff, too, if she wanted.
My friend, whose daughter got married, said “no gifts” because she didn’t want anyone to feel obligated as people would feel if they were attending a wedding. The couple did not say “no gifts”. And I have a very strong suspicion that my friend said ‘no gifts’ because we know her, not her daughter, and again -she didn’t want anyone feeling obligated.
Also, I am thinking of the couple when I decided on a gift card because they are going to have to get on a plane & go home after the party and I didn’t want to inconvenience them with a bulky gift that they would then be responsible for transporting home. A gift card, which could easily slip into a wallet or purse doesn’t pose a shipping problem and they could use it for something they need.

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