Aug 31 2010
We were invited but will not attend due to work commitments. Since we do not have to ‘cover the cost of the dinner’ what would be appropriate.
They are not registered anywhere.
Aug 30 2010
I work in a doctor’s office. One of the receptionists has a son who is getting married this weekend. I do not know the son or the woman he is getting married to. Today, one of the other receptionists came around taking up a collection for a gift for the couple getting married. She stated that everyone was giving $20 and it would be used to purchase a gift certificate to one of the stores where the couple is registered. I have never given a wedding gift or attended a wedding if I didn’t know either of the couple getting married. My question is; Am I obligated to contribute to the joint office gift for a couple I do not know? (and I am not particularly close to the groom’s mother who works in the office) Would you contribute under these circumstances and if not, what can I say to nicely decline when they come around again to try and collect?
Additional info to consider: some of the other girls do know the bride because she worked with them several years ago (before I came to the office)
Also: we employees usually remember each other with a monthly birthday dinner and other ocassions. I got a gift card from my co-workers when I got married last August. However, when my mother-in-law passed away in March, they didn’t even acknowledge it with even a card or plant. For that reason, I am having difficulty about whether or not to contribute for a wedding gift when I don’t even know either the Bride or Groom.
Aug 29 2010
I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding this Saturday. I have already given a gift at the bridal shower and spent money for me dress, shoes, etc and also for the cost of a weekend girls bachelorette trip to Atlanta. Do I still have to give a wedding gift? This is starting to add up and I’m just wondering.
Aug 28 2010
My niece and I are giving my step-daughter a post-wedding shower. I believe it is customary for the bride maids or girlfriends to do it, but it just never happened so we took the job. My question is this….my husband and I paid for her wedding, gave her a gift at the wedding, bought and gave her dishes and other odds & ends for her house, would it be considered incorrect for us to NOT buy her a gift for the shower? We have already spent a great deal on her & her husband and we have 3 other children to consider. After the expenses we will incur for the shower, I feel we have done enough…..what is the proper behavior? Thanks in advance & blessings to all!
Just as a follow-up, wanted to let you know the reason we are giving the shower after the wedding is because there wasn’t time before. Her husband is in the National Guard and had to leave before their scheduled wedding date so we moved it up and had to get it all planned in a rush. Thank you all for taking the time to give such great answers. It is going to be hard to pick the best one.
